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How does your body talk to you?

Back in 2003, my body got my attention in a big way.

I started experiencing severe back pain – the sort that demands cooperation and absolute commitment to change. Initially, I remember feeling pain and anxiety and frustration. Whilst the pain was limited to the area of my back, it’s impact would generate change in all areas of my life –work, play, physical exercise and emotional well-being.
 Such was my dilemma – manage the pain whilst ignoring the message it carried or listen to the demands of my body.

If […]

How and why to let go!

Many years ago on holiday I experienced an incredible thing. It was the difference between holding on and being held, fighting with and playing with… ultimately the difference between pain and pleasure. And all this on water-skis! When I started to learn to ski I was holding on with every muscle in my body and with all the strength I had; I thought I would fall if I didn’t. It was exhilarating but I could feel the aches and pains afterwards. And I felt there had to be an easier way. My mind agreed and this required me to relax my muscles and start having some fun! I remember the moment I let go of the need to fight with the boat and how my focus changed from holding on (for fear of falling) […]

You get what you focus on!

“Would you tell me please, which way I go from here?”


” That depends a good deal on where you want to get to”, said the cat.

“I don’t much care where”, said Alice.

“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go”, said the cat.

Alice in Wonderland – Lewis Carroll

Have you ever embarked on a journey to no-where in particular? Where did it get you? Maybe you enjoyed the journey even so, as sometimes the journey […]

The importance of Being Real

So what’s important about being real?

It’s good / healthy for us – if we deny ourselves or others the reality of what is true for us at any moment then that truth remains with us, unexpressed but nevertheless stored in our bodies as tension or dis-ease. If we are allowed to express what is true for us then our truth can be recognised or acknowledged in some way. That recognition gives the message that it’s ok to be where we are and ultimately this is what allows us to move on to a more resourceful state when we are ready.

Supporting […]

How is your environment working for you?

The focus so much of the time is on what we are doing and who we are doing it with and we can lose sight of the places we live in and the differences they make to our experience of life and of ourselves. When I am enjoying my surroundings I experience life differently… joyfully and peacefully…

Our environments impact us all; some of us are more aware of it than others. Our environment includes the physical space we are in, the light, the sound, the energy, the people, the smells, the colours and shapes… We operate in many different environments each day – the places where we live (sleep, eat, spend time) the places where we work and the places we visit and move through […]

The truth about habits

Learn (lûrn) v. To gain knowledge, comprehension, or mastery of through experience or study.

Habit (hab’it) n. A recurrent, often unconscious pattern of behaviour that is acquired through frequent repetition.

We were all born with a great capacity for learning and our habits are the results of that learning.

Which habits have you learnt over the years?

❯   Smoking?

What are you learning?

What they learn as they grow:

 

A person that lives with ridicule


Learns to be timid
.

A person that lives with criticism


Learns to condemn
.

A person that lives with distrust


 

Learns to be deceitful
.

A person that lives with antagonism

Learns to be hostile
.

A person that lives with affection


Learns to love
.

A person that lives with encouragement


Learns […]

Are you spending your time wisely?

Imagine…

There is a bank that credits your account each morning with £86,400. It carries over no balance from day to day. Every evening it deletes whatever part of the balance you failed to use during the day.
 What would you do? 


Draw out all of it, of course!!!

Each of us has such a bank. 
It’s name is TIME. 
Every morning, it credits you with 86,400 seconds. 
Every night it writes off, as lost, whatever of this you failed to invest to good purpose. 
It carries over no balance. It allows no overdraft. Each day it opens a new account for you. Each night it burns the remains of the day. If you fail […]

The magic formula for success!

Had a certain divorced single mother, living on welfare in a tiny Edinburgh flat, been more concerned with regrets of the past or anxieties for the future, the world might not have marvelled at the adventures of a young wizard named Harry!

Great performers in all fields of endeavor need to apply this magic formula to realise their dreams:

P = p – i

where P is performance, p is potential and i is interference

– Tim Gallwey

Let’s look at some of the ways in which we create interference in our lives by answering this question:

How […]

What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?

“ …I keep picturing all these little kids playing some game in this big field of rye and all. Thousands of little kids, and nobody’s around- nobody big, I mean – except me. And I’m standing on the edge of some crazy cliff. What I have to do, I have to catch everybody if they start to go over the cliff – I mean if they’re running and they don’t look where they’re going I have to come out from somewhere and catch them. That’s all I’d do all day. I’d just be the catcher in the rye and all. I know it’s crazy, but that’s the only thing I’d really like to be. I know it’s crazy…”


J.D. Salinger – The Catcher in the Rye

Are your values your best-kept secret?

 

Values – what are they and where do they come from?

What’s important to you in your life? In your job? In your relationship with your partner?

Take one or all of these areas and identify your values. For example: In life – growth, creativity, friendship, health…
In work – achievement, learning, challenge, financial reward…
In relationship – connection, support, trust, attraction…

Often the choices we make in life are driven by our values, such as starting or ending a relationship and taking or leaving a job. In making this choice we believe we are going to get more of […]