- Are you struggling to get your needs met in your relationship?
- Do you keep getting into the same arguments with your partner?
- Are you and your partner speaking different languages / not able to communicate successfully?
- Are your past relationships getting in the way of your present one?
Successful relationships take time, effort and courage. As our lives get busier, we focus less on our relationships. As we seek more physical comforts, we can become less open and honest.
How much time, effort and courage are you investing in your relationship? It’s worth the effort. Research shows that couples with satisfying relationships live longer – when we reveal ourselves to each other we live healthier, more vital lives and have less dis-ease.
Therapy for Couples
Great relationships are based on a solid underlying friendship and the extent to which the needs of both partners are being met – and this requires constant re-negotiation!
We teach others how to treat us and this is why we must look at how we are with ourselves first. This is the blueprint for all our relationships. And once you improve your relationship with yourself you can focus on what you want (and don’t want) with others.
Questions For Couples – What do you really want?
Do you know what you want and need in your relationships? And are you prepared to share and request this?
Here are some questions that might help:
- What do you and your relationship need right now?
- Do you know how to speak your partner’s language?
- Are you noticing what’s working?
- Are you noticing what isn’t working? And are you prepared to do something different?
- How is your behaviour contributing to the state of your relationship?
- What are you avoiding and / or putting up with in your relationship?
How I work with couples
When I work with couples I request that we meet individually too. The reason for this is that what you bring into your relationships often has nothing whatsoever to do with your partner, other than its negative impact on the relationship! – this is better worked through on an individual basis.
A couples therapy session will typically last one and a half hours.
You will be asked to take responsibility rather than assign blame and to notice how you are communicating with your partner. You will discover how to speak your partner’s language. You will have an opportunity to say what is true for you (without being interrupted) and you will learn to accept and even celebrate your differences!
“The ultimate test of a relationship is to disagree but hold hands.” Alexander Penney
Contact me about Couples Therapy
Call me on my mobile 07768 278 654 if you’d prefer to speak with me – please leave a message if I’m busy and I will call you back as soon as possible.
I am based in Brondesbury Park, London NW2 and I offer a 15 minute free telephone consultation to new clients – contact me now to book yours!
I look forward to hearing from you,