As our lives get busier, we find we have less little time for cultivating realtionships. As we seek more physical comforts, we can become less open and honest. Sincere relationships, personal and professional, take time, effort and courage.
Great relationships are based on a solid underlying friendship and the extent to which the needs of both partners are being met – and this requires constant re-negotiation!
We teach others how to treat us and this is why we must look at how we are with ourselves first. Once we have improved our relationship with ourselves, we can focus on what we want with others.
Here are some questions that might help:
I work with both individuals and couples in the area of relationships.
When I work with couples I request that we meet individually too. The reason for this is that what we bring into our relationships often has nothing whatsoever to do with our partner, other than it’s negative impact on the realtionship! – this is better worked through on an individual basis.
A couple session will typically last one and a half hours.
You will be asked to take responsibility rather than assign blame and to notice how you are communicating with your partner. You will discover how to speak your partner’s language. You will have an opportunity to say what is true for you (without being interrupted) and you will learn to accept and even celebrate your differences!
“The ultimate test of a relationship is to disagree but hold hands.”